Do you have something around your house that needs to be fixed but you haven’t taken the five or ten minutes to fix it? You’ll make a little extra effort every day to work around the problem thinking that you don’t have the time to actually fix it. The truth is that you spend more time and energy working around the problem than you would actually fixing it. And that broken thing takes up a little bit of your attention, sitting there in the back of your mind waiting to be fixed.
There’s some sage advice out there that says that, if you buy a house that needs some repairs or finishing, do NOT move into the house until ALL of the work is done. Otherwise, you’ll be looking at those same needed repairs five, ten or more years from the day you moved in.
Mounting Burdens
How often do you do this in all areas of your life? The broken relationship. That extra five or ten pounds. The lack of energy to get through the day. The unbalanced checkbook. The deliverables you keep procrastinating on.
They each suck a little bit of energy from us every day. They create tiny bits of distraction that keep us from being completely focused and present.
This all occurred to me when I finally fixed a broken kitchen drawer. At first, the drawer became hard to open and close but we just used a little more force and worked with it. After about a month, it became completely inoperable regardless of how much force we used. I took a quick peek inside to discover that one of the tracks that the wheels roll on had completely fallen off but I couldn’t easily see where it was. Instead of taking the time to fix it, I pulled out the drawer and emptied it and taped a cover over the hole thinking that this was part of all the little broken parts of the kitchen cabinets that will get fixed when we (someday) completely re-do the kitchen.
And then the same thing happened to the drawer beneath it. I tried more “quick fixes” that didn’t quite work. And then I laughed at myself.
Fix It Right Now
I got a screwdriver and a few screws and took about ten minutes to put both drawers back together so they both now work perfectly. Why didn’t I do this a few months ago?
Then I started noticing all the other little ways that I avoid fixing things that add to my mental burden. I made a pact with myself to fix everything I see as soon as I notice it.
It’s been one of those experiences where I didn’t realize how taking these tiny actions in the moment change how I feel all day. I no longer have to file away the thought to remember to do something “when I have the time.” In the past, I never make the time and all those things piled up in my head. By doing them as I see them, I don’t have to carry the extra weight.
Feel Good Right Now
Learning from the practice of doing things as I see them, I’ve translated the idea into doing things that make me feel good in the moment instead of waiting until I “have the time.”
By only focusing on work, I become drained. Because there’s always more than enough to do, I procrastinate on things that will actually energize me and help me to get more work done.
For example, if I don’t practice yoga daily, my body, mind, and spirit feel it. I used to practice first thing in the morning (before kids) so I never missed my practice. Now, regardless of how early I get up, the little ones are up with me. Instead of forcing the issue in the morning when it’s not good for them, I started practicing in the afternoon when my body and mind need a break from the computer.
At first, I was consistently working through the day and forgetting to stop and practice so I felt worse each day. Now I have a reminder that pops up telling me to “do yoga.” It sits there until I get out of my chair and practice. Most days I practice but some days I push it aside thinking that I don’t have the time. And I always regret that decision.
Living My Values
Now I’m in the process of re-training my mind to be OK with doing what feels good in the moment. My monkey mind usually jumps in to remind me of all the work that still needs to be done to which my mindful mind replies, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
My health is my top value. Without it, I’m useless to anyone or anything in my life. I have to remind my monkey mind that I’m living my values now, not someone else’s. If something about me needs attention, if it needs to be fixed, I stop what I’m doing and fix it. I don’t limp along feeling crappy and being less than what I want to be with my family and friends. They don’t want to be around me when I feel like that. So I stop and fix it when I notice it.
Simple Steps
If something needs to be fixed, stop what you’re doing and fix it right now.
If something needs to be cleaned or organized, stop what you’re doing and clean it right now.
If your body needs to move, stop what you’re doing and get up and move however your body is telling you to right now.
If you need to make a tough call, stop what you’re doing and make the call right now.
If you’re thinking about all the fun in life that you’re missing out on or that you’ll get to “someday,” stop what you’re doing and go do it or make concrete plans to make it happen right now.
Your time here on earth is short. Don’t carry burdens. Have fun. Do what makes your heart sing.
Stop what you’re doing and make it happen right now.
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It’s sheer laziness on my part and I have to remind myself to ‘just do it – now’ and then release it from my mental. Thanks for the great blog.
Thanks for your comment Liz! It’s great to no longer have to carry around all the mental baggage.
I have a tendency to put off those little things that need to be fixed. They will continue to bug me until I get them done. Take for instance, FB page timeline. I uploaded a cover picture only a couple of days ago after sitting on it for weeks. And it took me just 10 mins to get it done.
I like what you said about not carrying these burdens around. Having a to-do list helps!
Thanks for the great reminder!
I have to agree with you Evelyn. That’s what I got tired of and gave me the incentive to change my ways. Most of the things that come up actually never have time to make it to a to-do list. I just do them right then and there. It tends to be the things that take longer that go on my to-do list and they get done when I have to look at my list a few times a day.
Thanks so much for your comment!
haha that sounds like my procrastination all right!
Noch Noch
Given someone as driven as you, Noch Noch, I would find it somewhat hard to believe that you procrastinate much!
ah hahaha, if only you knew how many times a day I say “oh I’ll do it tomorrow”…. 🙂
Noch Noch
I agree with you. There is no better time to fix things up but now. Temporary remedies is simply trying to deal with it at a later time .
Exactly Sheena! Thanks for your comment!
Did you write this specifically for me Paige? 🙂 I hear you loud and clear — I am on it. I’ve got a good list of things that have just been building. It is soooo time to go and handle it all. Thanks for the words of wisdom.
Of course I was thinking of you, Sibyl! 🙂
It always feels good to clear the mental and physical clutter in our lives.
Oh goodness! This is so hard for me! I’m the queen of “I’ll do that a bit later” married to the king of “do it now before I forget” – as you can imagine, we have some clashes when it comes to those kinds of things. It’s sheer laziness on my part and I have to remind myself to ‘just do it – now’ and then release it from my mental To-Do list.
Thanks for the nudge. 🙂
You’ve hit one of the main points of this exercise right on the head, Lisa. Doing those little things now reduces your mental clutter and allows your mind to breathe a little easier.
Hi Paige,
Now that’s some good advice. I’m actually in the process of getting into the habit of doing things that don’t take long right now. I’m not always successful, but I’m getting better and better at it.
Sometimes I’m amazed at how quickly you can finish some things, and sometimes I’m amazed at how long things can take! 🙂
Glad to hear you’re picking up the practice, Peter! It’s definitely a practice to turn it into a habit. Like Betsy said, setting a timer helps us to get real about how long things really take.
Thanks for your comment and I’m so glad you’re here!
I love this Paige! My mother once said that I should time all the chores I don’t like. So I did. Folding laundry and doing dishes were the first ones. Finished in no time at all! I was amazed. It totally changed the way I looked at everything. I still definitely put things off though especially when I’m busy so your post is a timely reminder to get back on track for everything that I need to do this weekend.
I did the same thing, Betsy! It’s amazing how little time so many things take. Often, I’ll put something in the microwave for 1 or 2 minutes and do something else while I wait. Then I realize how many little things I accomplished in only 1 or 2 minutes.
As I’ve been practicing this, I no longer have a pile of kids’ clothes and stuffed animals that need little holes fixed. They’re done as soon as I see them. Little cleaning projects don’t linger physically or in my mind. It’s been great!
I forgot to write my husband’s saying, “Touch it once.” For example: Read an email, answer it. I tend to contemplate everything for way too long.
I would have to agree with your husband, Betsy. When we don’t handle things the first time, they tend to sit around until we stop seeing them right in front of us – until they pile up. Just do it! Thanks for the update!
Great post Paige! What I find rather fascinating is how there can seem to ‘never be enough time’ yet – the more we pile on ourselves, the more things we get done – which reminds us that it’s about how we manage ourselves. I’ ve had countless little things that needing fixing and like you say they’d add a heavy weight each time I saw it and dealt with it. Once they are taken care of it’s an amazing feeling of relief and a feeling of (like what you said) ” Why didn’t i do that months ago.”
Your post is a great reminder that little things turn into big things when we don’t make them a priority and we put them off to ‘when we have time’ which means it’s not going to happen until its a screaming crisis.
Life is so much easier and nicer when we take care of the things that need to be taken care of. So choosing to make the time to do it ‘right now’ is sage advice!
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Sounds like you’ve learned the lesson, Aileen! That’s awesome!
Although we use the phrase, “not enough time” all the time, when you think about it, it really makes no sense. There’s always time. Time is infinite. It’s how we choose to use it that makes a difference.
Saying that I “ran out of time” so I couldn’t get to it simply means that the thing I “didn’t have time for” wasn’t that important to me. It wasn’t enough of a priority for me to devote some attention to it.
We could all take a close look at what we think is important in our lives by looking at where we actually spend our time. Kinda makes me say “hmmmmm.” Does how you spend your time line up with your core values? Something for all of us to ponder.
Hi Paige,
I can be the same way about putting things off for a long time. We had a phone in the bedroom that didn’t work. It’s been sitting for months and I’ve just used the other extension or my cell. Finally yesterday, I found a phone that was practically new that we had put away, switched them out and now we have a working phone in the bedroom. It is so interesting how we just choose to ignore the problem until finally we do something about it, and wonder why it took us so long. Thanks for the reminder to fix things right now.
Sometimes I wonder if avoiding the problems around us is a way of not living in the moment. We’re thinking of the future so often that we forget about what’s going on right under our noses.
Thanks for your comment Cathy!
This hit home right away because I lost the chance to fix something. I have some small tai chi figurines. The hand broke off on one. I didn’t fix it right away. I put the hand at the base of the figurine, thinking I would get back to it later. Well, would you believe that hand sat there for several years?! And what do you think happened? When I finally went to fix it, the hand had disappeared. So now I have one little figurine with only one hand. A good reminder to fix things quickly!
Galen,
Sometimes when we don’t take the time to fix things, the Universe has a way of fixing them for us in ways we might not expect.
Thanks for your comment!
Excellent suggestions for new strategies to try!
The problem is establishing the habits of actually doing them.
Or, in other words… Being human.
We want to put a smile on peoples faces!
Creating new habits is a process, as I’m finding with my current challenge to stay out of my inbox. Doing things as they arise seems to be easier for me – maybe because I prioritize work/chores over things I love to do. Learning more about ourselves is one of the many paths to happiness!
Hi Paige,
Funny. I just decided I needed to buy a new vacuum cleaner this morning. It gave out last week. I also had 2 returns that I took back yesterday. Now for that phone call…
You’re on it Tess! Getting things done as they come up keeps the mind at ease. Thanks for sharing!!
Wow Paige, this really hits home for me. Of course if I were to stop and attend to all those lingering, broken things RIGHT NOW, it would take me several days….:-)
That said, you’ve inspired me to pick one or two of those little annoyances each day and attend to them. It’s so true that it usually doesn’t even take that long. (I say usually because I’ve got two left hands when it comes to using tools – even a screwdriver. and that doesn’t help when I’m right handed.)
But today, I’m going to make that call to get a friend or hire someone to fix the broken front doorknob. Tomorrow will be the shower door, and then…
And I’m so with you on getting up right now and moving the body. Since I’ve dedicated myself to that I notice I’m MORE productive, accomplishing more, not less, of my computer work.
Thanks for another awesome and inspiring post!
Thanks Sarah! I used to feel a bit helpless when faced with fixing many of the little things around the house. When I realized that they wouldn’t get fixed if I didn’t figure out how to do them, I dug in and did the best I could. It got done!
Taking those baby steps and tackling one or two things each day will make them disappear faster than you think. Great work!
On getting up and moving my body, I find that, when my mind is in a slushy fog and I’m having a hard time focusing, that’s the best time to get up and do yoga or get outside for a walk. An hour later I’m a new person.
Thanks for the great comment Sarah!
Thanks for the reminder, Paige!
Always happy to help Bobbi!! Thank you!
Paige….
What perfect timing! My family just left after having a late afternoon lunch. I was planning to take a walk before it gets dark. I told myself that I would just get on the computer quickly to do a few things.. One of them was to comment on your new post…and POW….here you are telling me to get outside and take that walk! Thanks for giving me that push!
I love your example of fixing the drawer that was broken….a great post Paige. Fran
Thanks Fran! Glad you got out to take care of yourself first! That’s always what’s most important.
I’m always telling myself that I’ll get on the computer “to do a few things” and I almost always allow myself to get sucked in. This is how my yoga practice occasionally gets pushed right out of my day. Just one more thing. Just one more thing. Then the day is over. Aarrrggh!
Glad to hear that you’re keeping your priorities straight!!
Most of us say that we procrastinate when it comes to work, but we also fail to remember that procrastinate when it comes to living.
I can relate EVERYTHING in your post. It was as if it was talking to me. I’m in front of the computer most of the time and and I tend to just stay in the virtual world rather in the real one.
What a great reminder for me to get a life! LOL!
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Great point Glori! We procrastinate on just about everything. That being the case, what are we doing with our time such that we don’t have time for anything????
I can totally relate to you as a fellow introvert. Love your latest post! It takes effort to get out there in person with other people.
So happy you’re here!!
My husband and I bought a new mattress several months ago. It’s king-sized, and it’s great. But it was getting time to rotate that sucker. For weeks, every time we changed the sheets I said, We should rotate this mattress soon. But we didn’t. It looked so huge and heavy. And who wanted to take the extra time.
Well, we finally did it, yesterday. And, amazing to say, it took almost no time and wasn’t really that hard to do. We could’ve rotated that mattress until it was spinning like a top if we rotated it all the times we said we should and didn’t.
Good post.
Great example Hope! I’ve done the exact same thing. All these things take so much less time and effort than we think. I’m pondering why we blow them up in our minds to avoid them. Glad you finally got it done!
One thing that’s taking longer than I expected is losing those 4-5 extra pounds. 🙂 I completely agree with you about fixing broken things – at least minor stuff we use on a daily basis. Those little delays become big ones and eat the brain little by little. While I am quite a DIY person and nifty with my toolkit, occasionally I do procrastinate and work myself up to a frenzy because I haven’t fixed it yet. My folks always tease me about spending the same energy on actually doing it and getting it off my list. But oh, the joy of handling those little fixes is tremendous.
I can’t stand it when people won’t get things like leaky faucets and broken latches fixed.
Right now I have a longish list I have begun to tackle. Nothing is an emergency, nothing major – but you know how it is with the little things that add up. When certain things like, say, health related stuff are delayed, the price we pay for not doing it is a lot more than the price of doing it.
I know all this, and yet, often wonder what I’d do without the eleventh hour in my life. 😀 Sigh. Still, as my Mom would say – come 12th hour and it would be done, so there. But why go through the tension of delay? I torture myself with self-talk sometimes. 😀
Beautiful post which I think everyone, including those super-efficient folks should read.
Thanks Vidya! Once again, we’re so alike.
An idea to get those last 5 pounds off (I just thought of this): Tell yourself that you’re losing 12 pounds and get to it. It seems like when the problem is bigger, we put more behind it. When it’s “only” 5 pounds, we don’t work as hard but those last 5 pounds will drive us crazy. But we’ll do something about 12 pounds.
I’m noticing how much more relaxed I’m feeling by doing things as they arise. Like sewing little holes in the kids’ clothes (I don’t know what they do to create these little holes). I used to pile them up for a time when I “had the time” but that time would rarely come and I kept looking at the pile of clothes. Now I keep my sewing kit next to the dryer and sew things up as they come out of the wash.
That 11th hour is always a great push but creates stress in the process. I’m enjoying doing things in the 2nd hour. 🙂
Thanks for the great comment!