<!--www.crestaproject.com Social Button in Content Start--><div id="crestashareiconincontent" class="cresta-share-icon fourth_style"><div class="sbutton crestaShadow facebook-cresta-share" id="facebook-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fmotivation%2F&;t=Why+Your+Motivations+Aren%E2%80%99t+Motivating+You" title="Share on Facebook" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-facebook"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow twitter-cresta-share classic-icon" id="twitter-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=Why+Your+Motivations+Aren%E2%80%99t+Motivating+You&;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fmotivation%2F&;via=SimpleMindfulns" title="Share on Twitter" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-twitter"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow linkedin-cresta-share" id="linkedin-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.linkedin.com/shareArticle?mini=true&;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fmotivation%2F&;title=Why+Your+Motivations+Aren%E2%80%99t+Motivating+You&;source=https://www.simplemindfulness.com/" title="Share to LinkedIn" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-linkedin"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow pinterest-cresta-share" id="pinterest-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="javascript:void((function()%7Bvar%20e=document.createElement(&apos;script&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;type&apos;,&apos;text/javascript&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;charset&apos;,&apos;UTF-8&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;src&apos;,&apos;https://assets.pinterest.com/js/pinmarklet.js?r=&apos;+Math.random()*99999999);document.body.appendChild(e)%7D)());" title="Share on Pinterest"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-pinterest"></i></a></div><div style="clear: both;"></div></div><div style="clear: both;"></div><!--www.crestaproject.com Social Button in Content End--><p><em>This post is taken from my <a title="Mindful Body Pre-Launch" href="https://www.simplemindfulness.com/wp_lp/mindful-body-pre-launch-sqz/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Mindful Body program</a>. Click the link to learn more about how this program can help you to use mindfulness to achieve the healthy, happy body you want. It&#8217;s fun! Really.</em></p>
<p>You’ve started a new program that’s going to change your life. You’re sick and tired of the way things are and, <em>this time</em> things are going to be different.</p>
<p>You feel incredibly motivated. You can’t wait to get going and see results.</p>
<p>The first few days or even a whole week goes by and you’re fired up, following the program and maybe starting to see your first few results.</p>
<p>Then reality sets in. You get busy. That fire that got you going starts to fizzle. Everything required by that new program starts to seem harder and harder to fit into your life.</p>
<p>You start to slip back into your old routine and decide that this program, like all the others that you’ve tried, doesn’t work.</p>
<p>You completely lost your motivation.</p>
<h2>What<em> Was</em> Your Motivation?</h2>
<p>What exactly was your motivation in the first place? To get in shape, lose 15 pounds, fit into that little black dress, look great at a big event?</p>
<p>If any of those sound like your motivation, it wasn’t enough to keep you going. You need to understand <em>WHY</em> those things are important to you.</p>
<p>If you don’t have a strong enough ‘why,’ it will be an uphill battle to stick with your new program.</p>
<p><em>Motivations that don’t work (source is outside of yourself):</em></p>
<ul>
<li>My doctor/partner/friend/kids/whoever told me that I should lose weight/improve my health.</li>
<li>It would probably be good for me if I lost weight/improved my health.</li>
<li>I know I should lose weight and start eating better.</li>
<li>Others would more readily accept me if I was thinner.</li>
</ul>
<p><em>Motivations that work in the short term (source may be outside yourself or internal):</em></p>
<ul>
<li>I want to fit into my little black dress for a big event (success depends on how important it is to impress certain people at that event).</li>
<li>I want to run a certain race on a certain date (are you doing this for yourself or someone else?).</li>
<li>I want to prove to someone that I can do it.</li>
</ul>
<p><em>Motivations that give lasting results (source is internal and aligns with your values and beliefs):</em></p>
<ul>
<li>Heart disease runs in my family and my mother/father died at my age. I don’t want to die.</li>
<li>My child came to me, knowing how unhealthy my habits are, and said in a frightened way that they didn’t want me to die. They want me around for a long time for them.</li>
<li>I don’t want to be that kind of person (i.e. unhealthy, overweight, etc.) anymore. That’s no longer who I am.</li>
<li>I know that my children emulate me. I don’t want them to develop the same unhealthy habits I have had that have led to my health issues.</li>
<li>I want to have enough energy to play with my kids/grandkids and create amazing experiences with them.</li>
</ul>
<h2>What Is Motivation?</h2>
<p>As defined by Wikipedia, motivation is the process used to allocate energy to maximize the satisfaction of needs.</p>
<p>This begs the question: <em>What needs do you most want to satisfy?</em></p>
<p>Why is it important for you to make a change <em>now</em>?</p>
<p>How important is it <em>to you?</em> Not for anyone else.</p>
<p>If you don’t make changes now, what will your life look like in one, five or ten years? What will be different?</p>
<p>How will you feel if you put this off again?</p>
<p>How do these answers compare with your need to keep things in your life the same?</p>
<h2>Think you don’t have time?</h2>
<p>How much time does it take to make a choice?</p>
<p>Notice how you feel in the current moment and make a conscious choice about your next action. Consider whether your next action, regardless of how small, will take you closer to or farther from your goal.</p>
<p>Most of us run through life making unconscious choices, and we wonder why we have the results we do.</p>
<p><strong>We spend time on what’s important to us.</strong></p>
<p>Stop for a moment and think about where you spend your time. Do you realize that you’re making those things very valuable to you?</p>
<p>If you like how you feel about those thoughts, then there’s not much of a need for change.</p>
<p>If those thoughts are a bit of a wake-up call for you, then it’s time to be more intentional with how you spend your time.</p>
<p><strong>It doesn’t take any extra time to simply make a <em>different</em> choice.</strong></p>
<p>It’s time to find your personal motivation that will help you to make those different choices on a consistent basis, even when things get tough.</p>
<h2>Find the Motivation That Works for You</h2>
<p>Write down why it’s important to you to make the changes that you’re seeking <em>right now</em>. Write down all your reasons.</p>
<p>Make absolutely sure that whatever you write down makes you feel really good or really bad. This is <em>essential!</em></p>
<p>No negatives: not, never, should, shouldn’t, can’t, won’t. No doing things to please other people. This is just for you.</p>
<p>Your motivation has to be a “must,” not a “should.” Why MUST you make this change NOW? No excuses. No “yeah, but…”</p>
<p><em>Must</em> means 100% commitment. Don’t give yourself any backdoors. You’re not committed if you say anything like, “I’ll do it until…” or “I’ll keep up with it unless…”</p>
<p>With 100% commitment, you leave yourself no options.</p>
<blockquote>
<p align="center">&#8220;There are only two options regarding commitment; you&#8217;re either in or you&#8217;re out. There&#8217;s no such thing as life in-between.&#8221; &#8211; Pat Riley</p>
</blockquote>
<h2>Keep Your Motivation in Front of You</h2>
<p>Write down your reasons for changing on six pieces of paper (six copies of the same answers) and put those pieces of paper on your:</p>
<ul>
<li>bathroom mirror</li>
<li>refrigerator</li>
<li>credit cards</li>
<li>computer monitor</li>
<li>bedside table</li>
<li>dashboard of your car.</li>
</ul>
<p>Find an image of your ‘why’ and use it as your screensaver and desktop image on your computer, phone and touchpads. This could be an image that conveys how you’ll feel when you’re healthy and happy and feeling amazing.</p>
<p>Avoid comparing yourself to others. Every body is unique. Every body is beautiful. By comparing yourself to others, especially using the comparison as ‘motivation,’ you will inevitably begin to judge yourself as better or worse than the images of others in your head.</p>
<p><strong>Being mindful means having no judgments.</strong></p>
<p>Judgment and self-criticism will reverse any progress you make.</p>
<p>As you read the pieces of paper and see the images of your ‘why’ throughout your day, feel the feelings of your ‘why.’ Visualize and feel what your life is like when you’re living how you want to live, when you’re making choices throughout your day that support your vision of the new you.</p>
<p>Doing this in small increments, even for a few seconds, many times throughout your day will help to reinforce your drive, your motivation.</p>
<p>Becoming your new you will be that much easier.</p>
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Why Your Motivations Aren’t Motivating You
