<!--www.crestaproject.com Social Button in Content Start--><div id="crestashareiconincontent" class="cresta-share-icon fourth_style"><div class="sbutton crestaShadow facebook-cresta-share" id="facebook-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fhow-to-live-to-100%2F&;t=How+to+Live+to+100+%28Or+At+Least+Improve+Your+Chances%29" title="Share on Facebook" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-facebook"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow twitter-cresta-share classic-icon" id="twitter-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?text=How+to+Live+to+100+%28Or+At+Least+Improve+Your+Chances%29&;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fhow-to-live-to-100%2F&;via=SimpleMindfulns" title="Share on Twitter" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-twitter"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow linkedin-cresta-share" id="linkedin-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.linkedin.com/shareArticle?mini=true&;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplemindfulness.com%2Fhow-to-live-to-100%2F&;title=How+to+Live+to+100+%28Or+At+Least+Improve+Your+Chances%29&;source=https://www.simplemindfulness.com/" title="Share to LinkedIn" onclick="window.open(this.href,'targetWindow','toolbars=0,location=0,status=0,menubar=0,scrollbars=1,resizable=1,width=640,height=320,left=200,top=200');return false;"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-linkedin"></i></a></div><div class="sbutton crestaShadow pinterest-cresta-share" id="pinterest-cresta-c"><a rel="nofollow" href="javascript:void((function()%7Bvar%20e=document.createElement(&apos;script&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;type&apos;,&apos;text/javascript&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;charset&apos;,&apos;UTF-8&apos;);e.setAttribute(&apos;src&apos;,&apos;https://assets.pinterest.com/js/pinmarklet.js?r=&apos;+Math.random()*99999999);document.body.appendChild(e)%7D)());" title="Share on Pinterest"><i class="cs c-icon-cresta-pinterest"></i></a></div><div style="clear: both;"></div></div><div style="clear: both;"></div><!--www.crestaproject.com Social Button in Content End--><p><em>“Imagine a Ms. A – a wellness junkie who dutifully attends her trampolining and Pilates classes several times a week, eats five or more servings of fruits and veggies a day, watches out for saturated fats, avoids sugar, and has never smoked. Now imagine a Ms. B – an overweight couch potato who loves cookies and chips and sometimes has a few shots of tequila too many.</em></p>
<p><em>“Ms. A is also a slightly neurotic workaholic who feels like she is always running around. She is single, lives on her own, and doesn’t know her neighbors. She also doesn’t have time to go out with friends and often feels lonely. She doesn’t volunteer, and if you were to ask her about the purpose of her life she would be lost for an answer. On the other hand, our cookie-loving Ms. B leads a very socially engaged life. She has two very close friends and a loving husband and often pops over to her neighbors’ for a chat. She volunteers at a local charity and is very committed to its cause. She sings in a choir and does shopping for her elderly aunt once a week. She likes to sit on her porch enjoying sunsets.</em></p>
<p><em>“Who will live longer? Of course, no one can ever predict the longevity of any particular person. But research that compares the effects of healthy eating and exercise on longevity to those brought by healthy social lifestyles shows that the lonely fitness freak Ms. A and the junk-food crazed yet very social Ms. B probably have a similar shot at becoming centenarians.”</em></p>
<p><a href="https://amzn.to/2Rp0n8m" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><img class="alignright wp-image-6004 size-full" src="https://media.simplemindfulness.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/18212215/Growing-Young.jpg" alt="Growing Young: How Friendship, Optimism, and Kindness Can Help You Live to 100" width="333" height="500" /></a>This scenario is the premise for a book I recently read: <a href="https://amzn.to/2Rp0n8m" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><strong>Growing Young: How Friendship, Optimism, and Kindness Can Help You Live to 100</strong></a> by Marta Zaraska. It piqued my interest because I’m tired of the barrage of books and articles about how a certain food or group of foods is suddenly evil and should be avoided by everyone at all costs (carbs, lectins, fats, etc.). These books cover the effects of these foods in isolation, as if in a controlled lab, instead of with real people living their lives with all of their biological and environmental variations. This isn’t how life and health actually work. <em>Growing Young </em>takes a more holistic approach and shows that having a solid social life and healthy mental health are actually more important to our longevity that what we eat.</p>
<p>Working in the mental health world, I know that diet and exercise can only take a person so far, although diet can have a dramatic impact on mental health (check out <a href="https://amzn.to/33G5VB1" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><strong>Grain Brain</strong></a> by David Perlmutter, MD). Emotions also play a critical role in our mental and <a href="https://www.simplemindfulness.com/4-simple-ways-mindfulness-can-relieve-your-chronic-pain/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">physical health</a>. When emotions aren’t resolved and end up buried in our bodies, they create <a href="https://www.simplemindfulness.com/heal-trauma/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">physical dis-ease</a>. And our emotions are critically linked to how we see ourselves and interact with the people around us thus affecting our social life.</p>
<h2>A Healthy Social Life Matters</h2>
<p>Every one of us is unique in our biological makeup and our emotional temperament. As humans, we’re social beings. Whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert like me, it’s important to have social contact in ways that work for you.</p>
<p>Diet and exercise may improve the results of your blood tests, but if you’re lonely and disconnected, these things won’t do anything for your happiness. And who wants to live a longer yet unhappy life?</p>
<p>In the first section of <em>Growing Young</em>, the author shows how science has proven that boosting social connections is critically important to living a longer, happier life. Doing any of the following can dramatically improve your life:</p>
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<li>Find a dedicated romantic partner or work on your current relationship</li>
<li>Volunteer</li>
<li>Keep diverse friendships</li>
<li>Give and get lots of hugs (read the book to learn more about “cuddleries”)</li>
<li>Kiss your partner more often</li>
<li>Hold hands with your kids</li>
<li>Treat yourself to a massage</li>
<li>Look others in the eye to raise oxytocin levels for both of you (even if it’s your dog)</li>
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<p>In the second section, she shows how your relationships and your mind can extend your life. As a science journalist, Marta uses a wide variety of research performed by experts to prove her points. For example, regular exercise can improve your mortality risk by 23% to 33% while a happy marriage can improve it by 49%. Eating at least six servings of fruit and vegetables a day improves your longevity by 26% and a large social network can improve it by 45%.</p>
<p>On the detrimental side, grade 2 or 3 obesity can decrease your mortality by 29% and loneliness can decrease it by 26% with pessimism, unhappiness, and neuroticism decreasing it by 14% each.</p>
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<h2>Connection is Key</h2>
<p>Finding ways to connect with others on a regular basis is critically important. Connection includes growing your empathy, checking your attachment style, and doing things in synchrony with others (singing, walking, dancing).</p>
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<p>Finding ways to support others can help develop empathy and connection. Donating to charity, caring for others, volunteering for causes you believe in, talking to your neighbors, and engaging in random acts of kindness all help you see things through someone else’s eyes to better understand how you can contribute.</p>
<p>Connecting with others can also help you <a href="https://www.simplemindfulness.com/how-to-figure-out-your-life-purpose/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">find your purpose</a>. Your purpose gives you your “why.” Your “why” tells you why it’s important to do whatever it is you choose to do. The more you live in alignment with your purpose, the happier you’ll be.</p>
<h2>Mindfulness for Relationships</h2>
<p>The book includes an entire chapter on how meditation and mindfulness boost health. Mindful breathing can help lower stress and anxiety. A regular mindfulness practice can reduce worry and rumination. Mindfulness can help you grow acceptance which allows you to better manage anger and cynicism.</p>
<p>Jon Kabat-Zinn developed the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program in the 70’s to help hospital patients heal faster. Over the past five decades, it has been developed into a formal program and has been proven to improve overall health on many levels.</p>
<p><em>“Mindfulness interventions make people more aware of their feelings and more collected in their responses – instead of blowing up at your partner about the car not being fixed, you might just say that you are upset after work and need time to yourself. The fight is averted.”</em></p>
<p><em>“Another mechanism through which mindfulness-based stress reduction may improve relationships is related to the key ingredients of mindfulness: non-judgment and acceptance. By honing acceptance skills during meditation, partners may become more tolerant of their loved ones’ shortcomings and imperfections. Instead of dwelling on the dirty socks left in the middle of the room, you just breathe deeply and let it go. Studies confirm that greater levels of mindfulness correlate to greater satisfaction in romantic relationships.”</em></p>
<p>This chapter makes the case that practices like mindfulness, meditation and yoga may not directly improve your longevity (although research continues), these practices do allow you to have better relationships, help reduce feelings of loneliness, and reduce nicotine cravings. They change the way you see and interpret yourself and your world allowing you to feel happier, even when nothing has changed. You learn how to enjoy the simple things in life.</p>
<p>If you’re tired of feeling like you have to follow special diet and exercise protocols to be healthy, this is a book for you. You’ll learn the power of living a simple, mindful life in alignment with your purpose, having good relationships, and helping others can all help you live longer. The book is full of simple steps to a happier life.</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.growingyoungthebook.com/about-the-author" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><img class="alignleft wp-image-6005 size-medium" src="https://media.simplemindfulness.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/18212200/Marta-Zaraska-300x274.jpg" alt="Marta Zaraska" width="300" height="274" /></a><strong><a href="https://www.growingyoungthebook.com/about-the-author" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Marta Zaraska</a></strong> is a Canadian-Polish science journalist. She has written about nutrition and psychology for the <em>Washington Post</em>, <em>Scientific American</em>, <em>The Atlantic</em>, <em>The Los Angeles Times</em>, and <em>New Scientist</em>, among others. She is the author of <a href="https://amzn.to/2DVA3Q7" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"><strong>Meathooked: The History and Science of Our 2.5 Million-Year Obsession with Meat</strong></a>.</p>
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How to Live to 100 (Or At Least Improve Your Chances)
